The Best Self Defense
A famous karate master once said that the real
victory is winning a battle without fighting. This concept always
seemed to lose me somewhere. Sure, it was a nice thought, but
really, how can we defend ourselves without fighting, never
A few years ago after training for over 30 years
I finally got the answer. There really was a way to win most
street encounters without fighting at all. Notice I said most.
Sometimes there is no other way than to explode into action
and just go for it.
The best self defense is either to avoid a confrontation
in the first place or know how to defuse a potentially dangerous
situation before it becomes physical. Here's how...
Experts say that more than 70% of communication
is non verbal. This means that your body posture, eye contact,
facial expresssion and tone of voice are more important than
the words you say. According to the FBI a very high percentage
of crimes are committed without any physical engagement at all.
The criminal merely intimidates the victim to do what he wants.
There are three modes of behavior one can take
on in terms of self defense. First, there is the passive mode.
Passive behavior is a model of weakness. Picture someone with
their head down, shoulders lowered, no eye contact, feet close
together. Not exactly a pillar of strength. Criminals call someone
like this, "free lunch." This is a sure sign of fear.
The opposite of this is aggressive behavior. Most
overly aggressive people are working from a position of fear
as well but over compensate in order not show it. They fight
fire with fire and many times cause situations to become physical
when they need not be.
The aggressive mode is easily seen by the chest
puffed up, the jaw up and perhaps tilted, finger pointing, loud
boisterous behavior. By becoming overly aggessive they don't
allow the would be attacker an honorable way out. To save face
they would rather fight than back down.
The correct behavior to avoid many if not most
physcial confrontations and even most attacks is what we call
the assertive mode of behavior. This behavior is generated from
a position of confidence. Shoulders erect, head up, eye to eye
contact, aware and focused position. Prepared but not engaging
or insulting. Ready but not pre-emptive. Always willing to compromise
and let the aggressor save face. Confindent enough to hold his
ground without having to win the verbal war.
It is amazing how many times this will work in
the real world. So many of our students tell us they can't believe
the power in this.
We teach this assertive behavior both in our Street
Self Defense 101 video and our Street
Sense - Smart Self Defense for Women video.